Well my family (brother, sister and law and their son) came to visit this weekend. I knew I wasn’t in a place mentally to handle this, but come they did. I will start by saying that I know that their intentions where “good”. But the weekend was spent basically telling me that I’m a victim, that I perceive others comments in a twisted light, that I exaggerate the retelling of situations. When I started to cry, I was told that “there I go again being a victim”. I told my sister in-law that maybe I just needed to get to a place to process it all, but that wasn’t good enough. She said well you should be able to take it. REally cause I would love to see her endure 3 days of being told everything that is wrong with their personality, some true, some not, and not be upset. I know for a fact she would have been in tears. Thats the part about family that really sucks, especially extented family. They only see you how they want to see you… how you best fit into the mold of your family dynamic. I’ve changed so much this last year. I’ve gained soooo much strength, but none of them can see it. I’ve found the power to leave my unhappy life. To leave a great paying job with a great company (but one that did not stoke my fire or offer me any passion). And yet they only see me as a wee person. They couldn’t understand why I have cut off communications with my sister. They said I was taking things out of context. Well context or not, she always makes me feel shitty. After the crap with my mom this week, and now them, I think I’m just done with the family for now.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
Well my family (brother, sister and law and their son) came to visit this weekend. I knew I wasn’t in a place mentally to handle this, but come they did. I will start by saying that I know that their intentions where “good”. But the weekend was spent basically telling me that I’m a victim, that I perceive others comments in a twisted light, that I exaggerate the retelling of situations. When I started to cry, I was told that “there I go again being a victim”. I told my sister in-law that maybe I just needed to get to a place to process it all, but that wasn’t good enough. She said well you should be able to take it. REally cause I would love to see her endure 3 days of being told everything that is wrong with their personality, some true, some not, and not be upset. I know for a fact she would have been in tears. Thats the part about family that really sucks, especially extented family. They only see you how they want to see you… how you best fit into the mold of your family dynamic. I’ve changed so much this last year. I’ve gained soooo much strength, but none of them can see it. I’ve found the power to leave my unhappy life. To leave a great paying job with a great company (but one that did not stoke my fire or offer me any passion). And yet they only see me….<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[3,11,8],"class_list":["post-7","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-uncategorized","tag-divorce","tag-family-disfunction","tag-womens-support"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.divorceexperiment.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/7","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.divorceexperiment.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.divorceexperiment.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.divorceexperiment.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.divorceexperiment.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=7"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"http:\/\/www.divorceexperiment.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/7\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.divorceexperiment.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=7"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.divorceexperiment.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=7"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.divorceexperiment.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=7"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}